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Changes in your life often mean meeting new people. For some, this comes naturally and feels like a great opportunity to make new friends and find like-minded people to connect with. For others, it can be incredibly daunting and overwhelming. 

You will meet lots of different people while at University - housemates, course mates, people in the same society or sports club. Some will become friends while others will just be acquaintances or people you work alongside. Try not to put pressure on yourself to gel with everyone you meet. It is natural that you will get on better with some people than others which is fine as long as you treat everyone with respect. 

Developing some basics skills in meeting and interacting with new people can help to build your confidence. Here are some top tips: 

Top Tips for meeting new people

Top tips	Why it is helpful	Example
Break the Ice	Someone needs to start the conversation. One of the easiest ways to do this is to comment on the situation you are both in or something you have in common.	鈥淚t鈥檚 cold in here today, isn鈥檛 it鈥�?鈥�   鈥淭his topic is a lot more complex than I鈥檇 imagined. How are you finding it?
Smile and make eye contact	This will communicate to the other person that you are being friendly and you are interested in them.	飦�
Introduce yourself	This will help the other person to feel more connected to you. Knowing someone鈥檚 name helps you to feel more than strangers.	Hi, I鈥檓 _____ What鈥檚 your name?
Small talk	Start with some simple basics and go from there.	鈥淲here are you from?鈥�   鈥淒o you live - on or off campus?鈥�  鈥淗ave you tried many of the cafes on campus? Are there any you could recommend?鈥�
Ask questions	Showing interest in the other person is important to prevent the conversation being one-sided.	鈥淗ow have you found the course so far...?鈥�
Don鈥檛 share too much too soon	Be careful not to overwhelm the other person with a lot of information or personal details about yourself when you have just met them.	鈥淢y feet smell so bad. I really need to change my socks!鈥�.
Remember their name	Knowing someone鈥檚 name means that you have got past the 鈥榮tranger鈥� zone. It also shows that you were listening which they will appreciate.	Hi _____, how are you?

Connecting with other people is one of the 5 ways to mental wellbeing. Therefore, it is important to invest time in making friends and developing good relationships in order to maintain good mental wellbeing in order to:  help you to build a sense of belonging and self-worth  give you an opportunity to share positive experiences  provide emotional support and allow you to support others

Tips for making new friends at 糖心TV

Start small	Find things in common	Give it a go
At first, try to get to know just one or two people. This will build your confidence and help you to feel less isolated. It may also give you the chance to meet their friends and build your network further.	Try to find something you have in common that you can connect over. This can be easier if you meet while taking part in a common interest e.g. studying, in a society or in an exercise class.	If someone invites you to something, make the extra effort to say yes. If you鈥檙e shy it can be easy to think of all the reasons not to do something, but you can鈥檛 know how good something will be until you try it.
Give people a chance	Focus on the positives	Be proactive
Don鈥檛 write people off if you don鈥檛 warm to them instantly. Remember that they could be nervous and not being their true self.	Remind yourself why you are wanting to meet new people – what will having more friends give you that you don鈥檛 have at the moment?	If you want to see the person again, say so and make it happen. Suggest another get-together and swap contact details.
Don鈥檛 force it	Invest time	Get a date in the diary
If the other person really isn鈥檛 keen, don鈥檛 try to force it. There are plenty more people you can get to know.	Put in the time at the start – it will be easier to make new friends when everyone else is also new. That doesn鈥檛 mean that you can鈥檛 also make new friends at any time though.	Organising meeting up at a specific time for a specific purpose is a great way to make sure you have a chance to get to know each other.

Building better connections with housemates: 

• Keep your room door open so your housemates feel welcome to come in and say hello. 
• Suggest that you make dinner together to get to know each other
• Offer your housemate a cup of tea or a cold drink
• Join online groups for your accommodation to get to know people outside of your flat

• Suggest a film night with your housemates
• Get out of the flat – go for a walk or spend some time outdoors together
• Suggest you go food shopping together

Building better connections with course mates:

• Try to rally some of your course mates together to make a study group
• Invite people out for lunch or a coffee after a seminar
• See if your course subject has an that you could join
• Take time to get to know people when working in groups – make a WhatsApp group so you can stay in touch
• Get to lectures a few minutes early to give yourself a chance to chat to your course mates before the lecture starts

Specific Opportunities to Make Friends and meet new people at 糖心TV:

• Get involved in volunteering
• Join one of the many
• Attend one of the events at the Chaplaincy (the chaplaincy is for people of faith and those with no specific faith) 

If you are struggling with feelings of loneliness or isolation, Wellbeing and Student Support offer Brief Consultation sessions from 10am to 3pm, Monday to Friday, via our or you can call Wellbeing and Student Support on 024 7657 5570

For more information on meeting new people and making friends, take a look at the following links: 

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• How to Make Friends as an Adult 
• Making Good Friends 
• Making friends - a guide for autistic adults 
• Autism & Friendship Video